It seems lately that my 2 middle kids (daughters-16 & almost 18 – 20 months apart) are fighting more and more. You name it, they will fight over it. They get loud, and sometimes physical. The last fight they had, one wanted to take a shower and the other decided she was washing cloths…So you guessed it, fighting ensued.
I can say I have complained about these 2 fighting lately and even prayed about it, asking what do I do. Then the “what ifs” started jumping in…what if they get mad, what if they think this, what if they think that? Yup I the parent really went down the road thinking what ifs.
God reminded me of my own words this morning “Unless you are going to do something to change it, then don’t complain about it.” OUCH – Good Morning God! I have been complaining about those 2 fighting. I have been complaining about the attitude of the one getting ready to graduate. God asked “What have you done about it?” – OUCH again. Nothing….I have pushed it aside not wanting to deal with arguing, the attitude at that moment. Not wanting to make them “mad”. Yes I have become the parent I have judged in the past…..
So I read Hebrews 12:11 “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”
I wonder how many chances God has let us “slide” hoping we would just stop, or change our path? Waiting patiently before He steps in and disciplines us?